Matt's story
“Opening up shows strength. You’re not an island.”
There’s still a stigma that stops many men from seeking help. But talking about mental health with a mate or someone you trust shows strength. Owning it means saying, “I’ve got this challenge. It doesn’t define me, and I’m going to do something about it.”
I’m Matt, the youngest of five kids. I love travel, have too many hobbies, and I’m a passionate AFL supporter. Back in 1996, I knew I was struggling. I had suicidal thoughts and was later diagnosed with bipolar disorder. At the time, I’d never even heard of bipolar or schizophrenia. The diagnosis was a shock, but it wasn’t a life sentence. I still had plans and dreams – I just needed treatment and support.
One friend means a lot to me. I was worried about what he’d think when I told him, but it didn’t bother him at all. In fact, he appreciated me opening up. That taught me something important: people often respond better than you expect.
Men in Australia aren’t great at going to the doctor for anything, let alone mental health. But getting help early makes a huge difference. I’ve seen it in my own life and in the lives of others I’ve supported. Don’t be ashamed. Give yourself some slack and let people support you.
This story reflects one person’s experience. Everyone’s journey is different, and support is available if you need it.
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Crisis support is available 24/7 via Lifeline (13 11 14), 13YARN (13 92 76) and the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).