I grew up on the South Coast, on Yuin Country. The coastline has always been a big part of who I am – surfing, playing footy, and spending time with family. There’s a spot I go to where the waves crash hard. It’s a place I use to drown out the head noise and reconnect with myself and Country.
About five or six years ago, I went through a relationship breakdown and lost access to my kids. My whole world came crashing down. I didn’t know how to cope. I learned the hard way how important it is to talk to someone. There’s no single answer or quick fix – it’s about meeting people where they’re at and having real conversations.
The best advice I can give is practical: reach out to someone you trust, or connect with a service that can help. Lived experience is powerful, and talking to someone can make a huge difference. I check in with my mates in different ways – sometimes it’s just a message saying, “How you going?” Being present matters.
You don’t always have to be strong. It’s not about putting on a brave face – it’s about staying connected and true to your character. Do the things that feed you, like I do with surfing and footy. Find a safe person or place that gives you space to open up. Don’t let things break your spirit. Stay connected. Stay strong.
This story reflects one person’s experience. Everyone’s journey is different, and support is available if you need it.
